Don't Belive The Hype

So I'm riding the metro home after a long day of work, and I over hear a conversation about the book that seems to be all the rage for the profesional sistahs in the DC metro area: Mr Steve Harvey's "Act Like A Lady - Think Like A Man". "Is that book any good, or is it all hype" one beautiful sistah says to the other. "Girl he ain't said nothing I ain't heard before!" was the reply she got from the older women. I shook my head and laughed, who the hell made Steve the authority on all Black male thought anyway?! I mean seriously! Some folks will take this the wrong way, they'll say I'm hating on Harvey, or I'm just mad he's giving away all our secrests (lmao @ that one!). The truth of the matter is I just don't know what it is about some women who want to figure us all out. I stop trying to figure Black women out a long time ago. The main reason for that is because I realized that there was no collective "Black Woman" to figure out. Each woman is her own individual. It's just not smart to try to figure out an entire goup of people. You're only going to be with one of them at a time right? Well, maybe a few at a time for all those playas out there, but still no need to figure it all out. Sistahs need to come to the same realization. There is no collective "Brotha" to figure out. We're all our own individuals just like y'all are.

See, I have a theory about why we keep buying relationship books, and going to the latest "mama why'd I get married to a convicted fellon who's somehow fits every sterotype for black men that I've ever heard" play. It's because we're trying to come up with a quick fix. We're all looking for the perfect relationship from the jump. But instead of giving it time, we're looking to find the answers right now instead of being patient. The answers to all our relationships aren't coded into plays, and overhyped books. The answers to our relationship problems are right in front of us. They're in the person that we are dating, and alot of time they're right in the mirror. But for some strange reason we just don't want to put in the work required to maintain a good relationship. Maybe it's a by-product of the "microwave generation" wanting everything right now, who knows. All I'm saying is pay attention to the one you're with. Somehow, someway they'll tell you everything you need to know to figure them out. The only question then will be are you listening.


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